@rcb1975, welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect. How difficult it must be to still feel such loss after more than 30 years since losing your brother tragically. I don't think one forgets a loss, but learns to live with it as part of your life. I'm so sorry that you grief and pain has been triggered again with the recent loss of your pet. I'd like to invite @lilyoaws to this conversation as she too is grieving the loss of her pet.