I have learned a lot about dementia over the past 8 years. My wife was diagnosed with alzheimer's disease in 2012. We had a bad experience with the first neurologist in our small city. He seemed to be casual and unhelpful. We then found a really good neurologist locally who specializes in Memory and Cognitive Disorders Neurology. I learned there can be a big difference between a good and "poor" neurologist in terms of help for both the patient and for the caregiver. Our current neurologist has been good for my wife and also has been of great help to me.

For the past 5 years I've belonged to a men's only caregivers support group that meets monthly. I've also attended many, many Alzheimer's Association classes. From reading books (including Guide to Alzheimer's Disease and On Alzheimer's Disease, both from the Mayo Clinic), taking the classes, and listening to the experiences of the men in the support group, I learned how important it is to get a good diagnosis of the situation as early as possible in order to be in the best position to deal with it effectively. This is best for both the patient and the caregiver.

My wife and I have had 8 good years since her diagnosis (although it's not what we had planned for our retirement years!) We have created many "moments of joy" for her and in the process, I've enjoyed it too. She's still living at home although as her risk of falling increases we're making arrangements for a move to a memory care facility before long.

I'm brand new to this group and have already gained from it.