@joyces,Hi, All I can say is I do understand I too as a Heart Transplant recipient went thru similar thoughts about this new organ in my chest. I went from working a job I loved to wondering if I could ever feel normal again. One of the first thoughts was the fact that someone had to die for me to live. I went thru a very guilty feeling that I didn't deserve this Heart if someone had to die. Well it was my Pastor that turned my mind around. He pointed out that person was going to not survive what ever caused there death but what a wonderful gift it was that at least they could help someone else maybe a few people. I was thinking about it the wrong way. That person died wither I got a heart or not.

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That person died wither I got a heart or not. So it was an eye opening way to look at it.

On the fact that He has issues on weakness and a lack of drive to get better. I will admit at first i thought i would recover much faster than I did but after talking to other transplant patient's and realized that I will get stronger if I work at it. I am a little over 2 years post transplant and feeling more normal everyday. Walking 4+ miles 5 days a week and just the other day built a bench I really needed in my shed. Today i did some other maintenance that was much needed around the house. Playing Golf again etc. Yes I still cant do everything I could do 5 years ago but I can see its up to me to achieve goals in the future. I also remember that the reason I needed a Heart in the first place was causing me a version of PTSD. Yes I could do more physically but with the constant fear of my pacemaker having to Shock me back into normal Rhythm.

I really hope and Prey that something will spark an interest in Him to want his life back. I do know that I was checked out by a Psychiatrist and at least at Mayo is a member of the team. Particularly in the beginning prior to transplant. I'm also am surprised that the team wont address your concerns also. I know my Wife was there and required for me to even get a transplant so maybe if you say something to the team they will address it. It may be tough to give a little tough Love but I prey he realizes that you really care and want him to get better.

I hope you Have a Blessed Day
Dana