@joyces I am replying here because I checked the discussions that @colleenyoung mentioned and the postings were not there yet.

It sounds as if his transplant center is doing a good job of moderating your husband's medications to prevent rejection. I too have had my medications changed a few times. More often shortly after transplant and then once recently when I decided to take my immunosuppressant without food - they say to take with or without food, but it does make a difference in how much of the medication is absorbed so I chose to take it without food so I could take a lower dose. I was on tacrolimus for a while but it was causing me to have high creatinine numbers so I was switched to sirolimus. I did take mycophenolate (Cellcept) for about 6 months after transplant. Apparently both of those medications can cause tremors. Are the tremors worse in the two hour period after taking the immunosuppressants? In the info on tacro it indicated that is most common.
I too have never had any hint of rejection but my transplant surgeon has very confidently told me that if that should happen they can handle it. My transplant was across the country from you, at Mass General Hospital.
Men tend to be loathe to admit they may be having a psychological problem. He might believe it more if he was encouraged by his doctors to seek some help -- wives are often the last ones they will take advice from. I believe you are absolutely correct that his lack of physical activity is exacerbating his problems. I guess it's the old "you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink".

You say you didn't get a call for his yearly check-up. I'm surprised that when he went in for his last check-up they didn't automatically make an appointment for the next year. My transplant center does that and I think that it is pretty common.

You mention not being able to use the phone. Do you have hearing aids, many people with Meniere's do. If you do many brands can connect directly to phones if both have Bluetooth. I have Oticon HAs and I can hear better on my iPhone than I can on our landline. I have taken my landline number off of all of my doctor's information.

@fatherscaregiver I believe my transplant team consists of all of the doctors you mention, but the only ones I see are my transplant surgeon and my oncologist -- I had malignant lesions in my liver which they are still watching to make sure they did not metastasize.

Your father and @joyces husband could definitely benefit from some counseling. I hope they will finally see the light and let themselves take advantage of that help.
JK