@des46893, It's my turn to put my advice into action. I have a funeral that will be a large one because the person is a well respected and popular individual. I expect the visitation to be the most stressful for me because of the traditional handshakes.
I will be sitting away from the crowd during the funeral service in church because i will be playing my violin in my safe" place. Then there is a luncheon (pot luck) that I will not attend.
You have helped me to review my stay healthy skills. Thank you.