On a positive note, I have known people who thrive on the proper medication to control their OCD, so long as they yield to their spouse or partner who guides them when they overdo a compulsive episode. That is the true meaning of getting help. A person goes to the doctor to get treatment for a broken leg. It is wise for a person to go to the doctor for a misaligned thinking disorder. Both illnesses need assistance and support to overcome the problems and no one should think they are able or are required to go it alone. We need to teach this concept at a very young age. The ingrained thinking of an older person seldom changes, because he or she relies on what has worked in the past or what is the custom of the time. Dorisena