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I've had 3 cancers: Thyroid cancer, Lung Cancer and Breast Cancer
Cancer | Last Active: Dec 24, 2021 | Replies (46)Comment receiving replies
Dear Merry,
Thanks for your kind response. I agree that it would be helpful to have my boyfriend sign up with connect. However, that being said, I think it may be premature for him to consider; hopefully it will be something for him to consider in the future. Currently, everything, down to the smallest minutia seems to overwhelm and irritate him; I proceed cautiously and take my cues from him. If he wants to talk I try to make sure my listening antenna are fully tuned in to validate his frustration and worries.
I’m at the hospital with him today while they do the lung biopsies. I am grateful for his team of medical providers, their rapid response and the generous support provided by yourself through Connect. I will keep you posted.
Monroe
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Hi @monroeed, I'm just catching up with this discussion and have a few more areas of Connect that you may also be interested in exploring and connecting.
1. The Caregiver group https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/caregivers/
2. How can I be a supportive caregiver? HPV Squamous Cell Carcinoma https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/diagnosis-and-discussions/ In this older discussion @chapmanswife, like you, is supporting her partner. Fellow members gave her fabulous tips about caregiving, how she can be supportive, useful and also to feel less lost and scared.
Monroe, it's been a few days since you posted. Did you find out anything new from the lung biopsies? How are you both doing?
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I am praying for you and your boyfriend. Cancer can be scary. I pray that the biopsy is negative. I have had five cancer surgeries since 2012. I lost a lung but that does nor define me. Cancer is what I have, not who I am. You are doing a great job being supportive. Be sure you take care of yourself as well. You need to let off the emotions in a positive way. It can wear you down, so be sure to be kind to yourself. Have a healthy outlet to diffuse the emotional roller coaster that you are on.
You sound like a wonderful, caring person.
I try to not talk about my cancer unless someone asks me as I am more than cancer.
Keep him actively engaged in his friends, family, and activities that he enjoys.
My life is not diminished because I only have one lung. Life is a gift and something to be celebrated each day.
I will keep you both in my prayers. 💕