Dear Merry,
Thanks so much for your helpful response. All three of the cancers are new since the end of June of this year. The first sign was blood in his urine, which was followed by the removal of his kidney; surgery for the pancreatic lesion will be in January. The kidney and the pancreatic cancers are not the same. The lung biopsy is now scheduled to verify the status of the lung nodules. Fortunately, his physicians collaborate and review his care as a team and I feel he is receiving excellent care.

It’s easy for me to be quiet and just listen, but sometimes he likes to be distracted by the conversation of others. Being a consummate talker is hard for me, I’m not a big talker. He says things like he feels like a bomb is inside of him. I tell him that it makes sense he’d feel that way, because I’m sure I’d feel the same. I don’t know what I would do in his shoes. He also said he’s tired of talking about cancer things, explaining test results especially. I tell him he can talk or not talk about whatever he wants, but that I’ll support him the best I can.

Your good words have really been a wonderful guide and support and I can’t thank you enough. Wishing you and your family a wonderful Holiday and a healthy New Year !

Monroe