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Your gratitude changes because of organ failure...
Transplants | Last Active: Mar 2, 2020 | Replies (39)Comment receiving replies
@rosemarya @contentandwell I just had my one year anniversary Nov 28th and haven't written to my donor's family yet. My thoughts were that this would be a hard time for them right now before Christmas. My question is : is it too late to reach out to them and what on earth do I say? I don't know who they are or the circumstances that led to they're loved ones death. I am grateful but don't want to seem unfeeling to their loss and my gain. I've seen some guidelines on how to reach out but none of them seem to fit my situation. Please help me as I am feeling a tremendous amount of guilt over this.
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@gaylea1 I don't think it's ever too late to show your gratitude. I was told to wait a while until their grief was not as raw, and I did. I too knew nothing before writing a letter, my surgeon wouldn't even tell me the gender of my donor! I wrote to them and received a letter back, almost a year after my letter. They were very open in their letter, signing their names and telling me the name of their daughter.
How is your situation different? Maybe we can offer some suggestions if we knew more. If I can find the guideline given to me by the local UNOS group I will scan it in and attach it if that would help you. That is, if I can find it.
JK