@susan2018 I think stress is our biggest stumbling block in almost any situation. It really does eat at us. Just remember, that you once were a military wife and stress is our middle name. You, and he, got through the deployments safely and became much stronger. Use your anticipation to do positive things for both of you, things that you’ve always liked doing. You can also use it to be the strong, knowledgeable one. Take on some of his burden by having information. Keep a notebook of meds, doctor visits, lab work, etc. By being strong, you won’t lose yourself. Becky (a retired army wife)