Hello @lah It is nice to e-meet you here on Mayo Connect even if it is due to the tough situation your husband is in.

I'm Scott and my wife suffered from brain cancer for over 14 years.

It was immediately a new and tough path we were on once cancer joined our family. Our lives cannot simply forget that it is with us. Cancer changed everything. Our future became even more unknown that it was before. As they say -- the only certainty in life is change. That is doubly true when we are living with a chronic illness. But as I used to say to my wife, none of us are ever guaranteed anything in life, especially the wishes we may have been holding for our future.

The day my wife's neurosurgeon told us it was cancer our lives went off the rails into a direction none of us ever had even thought possible. I'm glad to read your husband's doctor is thinking cure! That is wonderful since from day one my wife's diagnosis included only the plans for palliative care. Curative was impossible. Positive thinking is always a huge plus!

While it is terrific your husband continues to be able to do all that life demands of him, that does not mean you aren't using immense amounts of emotional and psychological energy worrying, watching, analyzing, etc. day and night! For me the demands changed as did the dynamics of our lives. My wife and I were melded into a new and different couple due to those changes. When the one I loved suddenly was far more mortal than I wished, my life's focus changed forever and it became a more constant 'we' rather than 'she and I'.

I hope you are successful in finding a good counselor in your area.

Strength, courage, and peace