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Recognizing my own bias or prejudice .....
Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Oct 15, 2019 | Replies (173)Comment receiving replies
Thanks for your post, Ethan. Doing a turn-a-round when I feel bias is not an easy task. After I recognize the bias (it usually is accompanied with a churning in the stomach, etc.) I think of that person's situation in life and consider that they may appear the way they do because of unresolved emotional conflicts which have caused them to put on weight, drink, smoke, use drugs, etc. I remember what a radio psychologist said a long time ago, "There is a reason for all behavior." That is so true. If your behavior is exemplary or out-of-tune with what is healthy, there is a reason. Facing that reason can be a very difficult task.
Any other thoughts from the others in this discussion.
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@hopeful33250 I live in NH but am from MA. There are a lot of very biased/bigoted people up here. It's so different from the Boston area I find.
A few years ago my daughter was dating a very successful, well-educated, well-dressed young man from the Dominican Republic. She brought him to a wedding that she was a bridesmaid in. Someone came up to him and asked him if he was the chauffeur, presumably because his skin was darker. My daughter was really upset by that. I tried to tell her they probably thought that because he was just about the best dressed guy at the wedding but she wasn't buying it. Her husband is of Indian heritage and she sees prejudice against him also, particularly in the last few years -- people seem to feel more open to expressing their feelings on the street. Since about half of her "tribe" are non-Caucasian she sees a lot of prejudice these days.
JK