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Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Nov 25, 2020 | Replies (135)Comment receiving replies
I'm so sorry for what you have gone through (and are going). When I said to "accept" I think what my Doctor meant is to accept the fact that the other person is not going to change (unless he wants to) For me, accepting that fact helps me to realize that it's his problem, not mine. The biggest problem that I have is NOT taking back a situation after I've given it to GOD. So hard, but when I don't take it back, obsessing over it, is when I experience GOD's peace because I know HE can handle it a whole! lot better!! Sharon
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Hi, I just read through a few of these recent posts. You guys are talking about accepting being yelled at on an ongoing basis by a self absorbed crazy person. I do not see that working. If you are with someone who has no interest in listening to you or trying to see your side of the argument then you are with someone who will end up continuing to hurt you. That relationship is worth not a thing to you. I know it is hard to leave a person who you have come to depend on for certain things (whatever they may be) but it really is not worth it ultimately. I remember saying to my wife once back in the late 70s "it's your problem" and she saw RED! And she was right. It was not "her" problem. If it is a problem with you and your spouse in your marriage then it a problem for both of you. My wife taught me SO MUCH, but I had to be humble enough to see it. I was just young and dumb and had zero experience in navigating relationships then. If your spouse does not have it in them to be humble and they just don't "get it" (my wifes frequent words to me) then you are in a dead end relationship. My two cents, in case it is worth anything for you. Best, Hank