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Stress/Anxiety/Insomnia/Memory Issues
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Nov 25, 2020 | Replies (135)Comment receiving replies
I acknowledge, but I don't accept, I won't be yelled at, I was in a 20 year marriage of yelling, mental abuse and physical abuse. I won't be yelled at for any reason, it makes me feel disrespected. I let him know this. Maybe someday it will sink in. I don't think you'll get peace by sending it up to God. use your words. and if need be walk away if the yelling starts again. Tune up are necessary for everyone. Lets do this.
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@karjack Good for you! I can certainly see you starting to change, right in front of my eyes! YEA! [yes, in all caps, I am proud of you!] Abuse is abuse. Not all the time does it leave a physical scar. Been there, done that. And when you put your foot down and say "no more" it sounds just as strange to your own ears as it does to the abuser. You gotta be strong, practice everyday to change the habit of acknowledging but not accepting. When my husband raises his voice, many times it triggers my PTSD, and I have told him that we cannot progress in a healthy way like that.
You have helped your relationship with your current husband by blocking your ex, and encourage him to help you recover through all this. It sounds like he will be onboard to offer support.
Ginger