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Stress/Anxiety/Insomnia/Memory Issues
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Nov 25, 2020 | Replies (135)Comment receiving replies
The sun is shining here, for me and in my world "today" I am feeling a bit more positive, although it's still a tough road to walk. I blocked my x so he can't call. step in the right direction. I can't believe the time I have spent trying to change this man, if I only say this, or that, he'll get it. He never will. He's a narcissist, and they are a lost cause. I am a human that cares too much sometimes. Or do I have that wrong? Anyway thanks for the notes , I so appreciate it, it helps.
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Hello @karjack,
It has been several days since you last posted about blocking your X so that he can't call you. How are you doing?
Have you taken any steps towards finding a therapist to help you?
follow up on not talking to my X, deep breath, and I feel better about myself most days . I have to talk myself out of feeling bad for him and his Cancer, but for heaven sake he's been dying for 10 years, he just wants pity. I know he has it, i've seen the paperwork, but really.
I also know My Husband is feeling better having me not talk to my X. Although he's not a communicator ! and as a result of this he ends up screaming at me when I need an explanation for something, it's always about money. I am always the one who initiates the conversation about WTH just happened? he says he's sorry and we start over............I'm off to go outside and breathe.
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@karjack Good for you! You have taken a big step, so please give yourself a big hug for doing that! Stay strong in your resolve. You may find that writing out your thoughts as you step forward will help you express yourself and clear your mind. Writings can be for yourself, no need to share them unless you want. Keep them, burn them, hide them away, any choice is good.
Under the "Just Want to Talk" group here on Mayo Connect, is a discussion on journaling that you might find interesting. "Journaling -the write stuff for you?" [Sorry I am on my tablet and cannot cut and paste from here. When I get to my computer, I will edit this response.]
EDIT: Here is the link to the journaling discussion I mentioned! https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/journaling-the-write-stuff-for-you/
You have spoken of your current husband, and his patience. Enlist his support, tell him you are embarking on a new chapter and would love his input, and be able to rely on him. I would wager it will strengthen your relationship with him.
Life is too short and fragile to be burdened like you have been. You're right, a narcissist will not realize their action affect so many.
Ginger