Hi @gingerw, Yeah, my wife had asked me to move back in, repeatedly, and I finally relented around Thanksgiving. The depression is so much better with the ketamine infusions, which I do every three months now. So the marriage was going well again for several months. We did things each of us liked. And then it started going back to the way it was before. I would suggest something other than a walk or hike, she would say no and go in to watch TV. I would join her for a few shows but really wasn't into trying to figure out what was going on in a series that she had started on her own or that she had watched several shows while I wasn't there. Our daughter would suggest something other than a hike or a walk and get the same results. This went on for several months until I stopped suggesting hikes or walks. We essentially stopped doing things together. Our daughter and I would spend time together, work on homework, do projects, go to karate, and play games. My wife came in about a month and a half ago and said she was moving out, the marriage wasn't working. I said OK. Several fights later, more gaslighting of both me and our daughter, lying that she was going to do something for our daughter, and now we are finally working on the divorce. We are trying mediation but on the first session she accused me of hiding a pension for the last 17 years. I had to reach out to my HR department to find out how to show that I don't actually have a pension and I have been paying into a 403(b), which she has seen and knows the current value. There are a lot of other issues that have come to light in the past month as well. Except for the time I spent with my daughters (older one came home from the Peace Corp) I regret moving back in. I should have started the divorce procedures and gotten a place of my own.

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