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Stress/Anxiety/Insomnia/Memory Issues
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Nov 25, 2020 | Replies (135)Comment receiving replies
@contentandwell Thanks. I took Mirtazapine last night and I think it helped me sleep. I was awake again at 4:00 am but I was able to get back to sleep for two hours. I woke up with a horrible headache but that has passed for the most part. I do feel a little better today after getting more than my normal amount of sleep. I am hoping a few nights of good sleep and I will feel better. I also am hoping that I won't have the headache in the morning tomorrow but we will see.
I was on lorazepam for a while but weaned myself off of it after my psychiatrist screwed up the prescription and then wouldn't return my calls. My anxiety isn't too bad right now though I think it might be an issue with me getting back to sleep when I wake up at 3:00 or 4:00.
I don't know if I love my wife at this point. I've put up with a lot over the years and I think I am past my breaking point with her. I seem to be only able to remember the negative things now even though I try to remember the good things about the marriage. A lot of it is just emotion since I can't recall all of the things she has said or done. We don't talk about things now and I find I have very little to say to her that doesn't relate to the kids or to something I need to fix for her. I'll call the marriage counselor today and see about getting an appointment. Maybe it would help us at least be able to talk more.
@dmono2019 Thanks for the support!
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@mandrake70 You have a lot on your plate right now, with your family issues, plus your job, and your own personal things. And they all go around together, often overlapping each other in some form another, right? I am really glad to hear you are getting some restful sleep at night, even if it is not as much as you want. All my life I have been "an early morning person", no matter how late I get to bed.
I am glad you and your wife may consider joint counseling again, and hope it accomplishes what you want it to. Perhaps by setting it out with the therapist, right at the beginning, what the purpose of being there is/what your goals are [both as an individual and as a couple, with input from you both] you will find fuel to feed the fire of your relationship. In my own experience, my last marriage ended after I tried everything to get it to work. Our joint therapist was there for us, but my ex could not/would not participate, nor would he see that our marriage took two to work, and two to break down. Neither one of us was blameless.
For today, I hope you can reach out to your children, let them know of your love and support for them. Be gentle on yourself, and remind yourself that you are important, too.
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@mandrake70 I think the first thing you do need to determine is if you do still love your wife, but do remember that marriage has its ups and downs. I remember one celebrity who had a long marriage, comparing it to a roller coaster. After the lows, you end up with another high point. I think it's a fairly decent metaphor. Many marriages do fail because the down time comes and they move hastily to end the marriage rather than sticking it out, but only you can determine if this is the case of if the relationship has disintegrated to the point of no return. The marriage counseling will probably be very helpful. I hope you will share how that goes.
That's great that you got a good night's sleep! I wish I had. I hope your headache improves. By the way, my sleeplessness was not from anxiety, it happened because my leg (I fractured my femur) was in a lot of pain yesterday so I took a pain pill last night. I should not have, they always give me insomnia.
JK