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Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Nov 25, 2020 | Replies (135)

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@jimhd Thanks. I picked my daughter up this morning and ended up making her lunch and breakfast for her. She was running late and my wife was still upstairs. I know at 15 she can do things for herself but I also understand depression and how it makes doing everything harder. My wife came down while I putting my daughter's lunch together. She said good morning and later told me to have a good day. It's something at least. Maybe we can still work on being friends at least until my daughter goes off to college. I don't know at this point. I think my wife is depressed and she has mentioned seeing the marriage counselor we had seen years ago. I don't understand how she can be depressed and not understand it though.
I know my daughter has major depression because she has said she has had suicidal thoughts for the past two years. I wish she had talked to me earlier or that I had seen the signs but at least she is talking about it now with us. And we are working on getting her help. I am worried about not getting her in until next week but that's the best the clinic can do. I hope she is a good fit for my daughter too. They share the same name so I am hoping that is a good omen. I wonder if she will need medication or if the therapy will be enough for now. I had therapy when I was her age and it didn't help me all that much. I ended up just dealing with the depression and trying to ignore it. I hope that she will get what she needs from the therapy and, if not, then the therapist will help use get her the medication or treatments she needs.
I was diagnosed with major depression when I was in my twenties and have been medicated until recently. I am taking ketamine treatments now and actually have one scheduled for today. My previous psychiatrist diagnosed me as bipolar II and heavily medicated me which truly messed me up. I am pretty sure she misdiagnosed me and screwed me up really bad. I'm still working on getting better from that and have been suffering from insomnia, brain fog, and memory loss. I don't know if I will ever get better. I have an appointment with my general practitioner tomorrow about the insomnia. Something needs to happen since I have been getting around 5 hours or so of sleep some nights, sometimes better, sometimes worse. Even when I do get 6 or so hours, I still feel like I haven't slept well. I don't dream, at least that I remember, so I am not sure if I am getting any restful sleep.

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@mandrake70 When you go to your general practitioner, be sure to update them about what is going on in your life. They may have some additional ideas to consider in your situation. It is good to hear your daughter is opening up to you, and I share your hopes that the counselor she will see next week will be a good fit. There are so many pressures on teenagers these days. Until next week, if she feels the need to, perhaps someone at her school can be a person to speak with. There is also 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline https://988lifeline.org. Simply call or text 988. Each person is different in the causes, triggers, and treatment, and finding the right combination can take a while. The first step is realizing you need help. I am working out of a depressive episode myself, but wish i had gone for professional help.
Ginger

@mandrake70 It's so good to keep those lines of communication open, especially with a teenager. I think that will go a long way toward her own health, and, I suspect, toward yours, as well.

Have you ever had a sleep study? I'm quite slim, so I don't fit the typical image of someone with sleep apnea, but when I started using a CPAP machine I felt way better. I was so sleep deprived that I slept more than 12 hours the first few weeks. Sleep deprivation can surely affect our mental health.

I hope your wife will follow through with the couple's counseling. Could you talk about your daughter's suicidal thoughts and your concerns for her during the first session?

Medication can be a big help for depression. It took me a while to land on the one that did the job for me. You have to take an antidepressant for six weeks to know if it is working or if the side effects ease up. If one doesn't work and continues to have unacceptable side effects, you move on to the next one. I don't remember how many I tried - it must have been 8 or 10 or more.

Did the psychiatrist explain what he/she based the diagnosis on? I know from the reading I've done that meds for bipolar can have bad effects on someone who isn't bipolar.

I wish you well, Jake, in your search for things that will improve the quality of your life. I'll be praying for you and your family.

Jim