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Stress/Anxiety/Insomnia/Memory Issues

Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Nov 25, 2020 | Replies (135)

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Thanks Sundance. I'm taking Melatonin right now to see if that will help with sleep. My doctor wants me to try that before anything else. I'm still waking up at 4:30 but at least I am not waking up several times during the night most nights. Last night was a bit rough but I think that was because of the issues with my wife. I'm on Ativan for the anxiety issues. Pretty low dose but it seems to be working a lot of the time. Otherwise, I am off of all the antidepressants and mood stabilizers I was on for years. I do feel less like a zombie now though the lack of sleep and memory issues are really bothering me.
Been trying to rebuild some friendships that I let slip away over the past few years when the depression got really bad. I have almost forgotten how to make friends I think. It's a strange feeling now that I recognize the lack of friends to spend time with and do things with. I have a few work friends that I go out to lunch with once or twice a month. That has helped some. I no longer have a best friend that is local. I have some college friends that I have reached out to but they are scattered across the country (and one is in Denmark). Been trying to get out more but I have been spending most of my time taking my daughter to soccer, karate, doctor appointments, etc. My wife complains that she is a single mother now but I really don't see it with all I have been doing for her and for my daughter. I wouldn't trade the little bit of time I get to spend with my daughter for anything though. I miss having more time with her. My other daughter is in the Peace Corp so I don't get to see her at all. I get to talk with her once a month or so. We text most days. I guess the problem is I feel very alone and am trying to fix that but not having a lot of luck right now.


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@mandrake70 Lack of sleep can help memory issues raise their heads. Each person needs good quality sleep to rest and restore the body and brain. How much is the best amount of sleep, is a question for each person to determine. You have received some great responses here, and I would add my two cents, with your permission. Try journaling your thoughts, write down what is bothering you, what won't let you sleep at night. While you indicate your wife needs some help, and your daughter has asked for a therapist, you may also find it beneficial to get some counseling for yourself, even if your wife doesn't want individual or couples help. You may find it will help you face and deal with the issues you face. I hope you will come back and let us know how you are doing?