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My son decided to disappear without a trace at 54 years old.
Loss & Grief | Last Active: Sep 28, 2019 | Replies (147)Comment receiving replies
It seemed all at once everyone quit responding? Maybe I need to put more input in myself and reach out to others myself. Nothing is new at all with my situation. Except the passing of time. Rather this than bad news for sure. Praying for all of the hurting ones reaching out for comfort. Thanks for any prayers sent this way.❤️
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@maone
Hello,
So many people are unsure of how to respond to someone’s grief, especially when losing a child , no matter what age. They will express their sympathies initially and come to the services and then drift away. They’re afraid of intruding or letting you see that life is normal and happy for them and would be afraid to share any good news with you. They may be uncomfortable around you even though you do nothing to make them feel like that or feel that you may resent others happiness.
We don’t know how to deal with grief in this country when dealing with others. That doesn’t mean we don’t empathize with you. It’s difficult to know the right words to say if we ourselves have not experienced such an unthinkable loss. Please know that anyone who has read your posts is shocked and saddened and are thinking of you and your family even if they haven’t responded.
With prayers and kind thoughts from FL Mary
Maone, I dont feel others are responding to me either OR im doing this wrong.
Horrible day for me today.
Today I needed help! Its been bad enough but today for some reason it was just horrible. I woke up crying and like ‘suddenly’ realized my daughter was gone. She passed June 3. I cried almost all day til I gave myself a terrible headache. Sick! Everything today reminded me that she was gone. Everything. I broke down crying all day, husband tried to comfort me but I kept it up. Felt ill, my face hurt! I could NOT believe she was really gone. Am I going to have days like this? It was horrible. I couldn't eat, I just cried! I still cant seem to realize shes gone! Horrible day today.
I dont hear from many people on Mayo Connect. Where do I go so people can write me so we can share stories and seek help from each other. I guess im still unsure how this works.
Thank you.
I cant sleep so thats why im writing now. Its12:30.
Pray for everybody hurting!
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Hello @maone,
As a general rule, Members respond to posts. You might consider continuing to post your feelings in the Loss and Grief discussion group as you have done before.
There is a lot of comfort from others as you share your feelings. As a starting point, which of these feelings is most prominent right now: emptiness, loneliness, confusion, wanting to know what to do with these feelings?
Post about one of those feelings and I'm sure that others will respond as you reach out. Remember, we can only get support as we reach out to others and seek their support.