@maone - I know that you are undergoing a shocking change in your life, and again I can't imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine. The position of a volunteer mentor is not necessarily to "lead" a group. We started here just like everyone, looking for support and answers. As mentors we try and draw people out and share experiences, not to "rule over the nest." We welcome new members and hep guide discussions, staying away from controversial topics. We also help guide other members to join in conversations who might not be in a particular group, etc.
Mayo connect is a on-line community based on lots of inputs from lots of people, from all over the world. After I answered your first post so many people, including other mentors, came to your support that I didn't feel that it was necessary to basically say much of the same things. And what I mean by this is that what you are going through is so horrific that some of us really don't know what to say after our first response.
I am sorry if you have felt abandoned. If there is more that we can do or say please help guide us so that we do the best that we can for you.