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My son decided to disappear without a trace at 54 years old.

Loss & Grief | Last Active: Sep 28, 2019 | Replies (147)
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@maone

I don’t think he did. There were signs that he planned this. His visit to us was one. I tried talking to him but he wouldn’t talk about anything private. Never would. This all tends to go back to a first marriage? He was never the same after that. It was still a ongoing problem. I think he was running from that as to not put more hurt on us but didn’t really realize what it might do to us. You can’t run from things. He left the very people who could help him most. Maybe he just didn’t care anymore? It’s so very hard trying to figure it out when one feels like they have lost a part of their body. Thanks for caring ❤️

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Aug 3, 2019

Hello @maone,

All of your guesses about what happened to your son will probably not offer you much relief because they are just guesses. There is really no way to know what was going on in his mind when he disappeared.

I would like to suggest that you begin posting in Loss and Grief group. While most of the people in this group have experienced a loss due to the death of a loved one or friend, other losses are discussed there as well. I'm sure you will find some support. I encourage you to post in the discussion titled, "Loss When There is No Closure." This would very much fit your current situation.
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/loss-what-do-you-do-when-there-is-no-closure/
Please keep in touch!

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