@contentandwell I'm sorry but I just noticed that you had asked about urination control. Although, incontinence is a big part of PF Dys, thankfully, it is not something that I suffer with. Usually, incontinence implys some kind of organ prolapse. However, my PF Dys is not being able to relax my pelvic floor muscles and pelvic floor nerves, which can mean painful pelvic bowl muscled to/nerve spasms, pressure, heaviness, painful voiding, usually at the end of a stream, trouble with getting a stream started, emptying colon, spastic colon, a quick electric-like zap from the middle of abdomen, under navel to groin or in vaginal region. Sometimes, some of the flare ups can be likened to a charlie horse, except one that is not as quickly relieved as the normal foot charlie horse.
Hope this helps!