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Caregiving: I’m frustrated and exhausted.
Caregivers | Last Active: Mar 27, 2022 | Replies (223)Comment receiving replies
You are too kind, @kimspr3 I love to write, but don't know if anyone would be too interested in the ramblings of an old man 🙂 But I will give it some thought.
A side note -- my dad was a 1st Lt in the Army in WWII. He was awarded a Bronze Heart in the field and after landing on Omaha Beach fought across Europe and was a liberator of Langenstein Concentration Camp. He passed away before my Mom and his desire was to be cremated. There was family discord over the disposition of his ashes. My mom also wanted to be cremated and one day late in her life called me and said 'Scott, I'm worried that your dad and his service will be forgotten if he doesn't have a grave. Can you do something about this for me?' I was able to finally convince my sisters to give some of the ashes they kept and I found that the family actually still owed two plots in the cemetery where her folks and several other family were buried long ago. I designed a stone with my mom's agreement. Since Dad had never had a service, when Mom died we did a double service and were able to have it done with military honors.
Now no matter what, his service, as they say, is 'carved in stone'.
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@IndianaScott How very nice. My dad was onboard the USS enterprise at Pearl Harbor, and was awarded several medals in the course of his military service. He never spoke about it.
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Hello Scott, Your Mother wishes came true because of you, Your Dad Earned His Medals you acknowledge his Military Mission, Head Stones are Classic, Beautifully done but I wonder after Liberating the Concentration Camps and seeing what he saw around him did he ever talk about it with you to help free his memories? I'm a very sensitive person wether it good or bad being there to help is a good feeling.
Hey, lets take a vote, Think about a book to help others. SMILE. I have been asked to do the same but for me having PTSD do I want to go there?
Maybe you aren't interested in sharing your thoughts and experiences now, but having them written for future generations will be great. We can't ask our grandparents and great grandparents those questions we wish we could have while they were living, but we can read their diaries, letters and other writing they may have done. I am so thankful my mother, grandmother, and aunt were great diarists as well as letter writers and my mother very patiently saved all of that for us.
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That is so nice! My brother retired from the Navy. His wife, my sister-in-law, has his ashes. The plan is to bury their ashes together when she passes.