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Caregiving: I’m frustrated and exhausted.
Caregivers | Last Active: Mar 27, 2022 | Replies (223)Comment receiving replies
Love that, "I was just trying to help". I'm also learning that my tone of voice makes a big difference too. I need to speak softly when he or I am frustrated or in a hurry. Everything takes so much longer now, so I need to give us extra time to get ready to go somewhere, etc.
My dilemma tonight is asking for wisdom and help for both my husband's and my care during my recovery from a total knee replacement in 10 days that I just found out about this AM. My son will be able to take care of my husband who has ALZ during the first day while I'm in the hospital and that night, but his wife will probably be working and only have a day or so to stay with us. A friend who just had the same surgery is needing round the clock care and I may need to hire a caregiver for both of us. Friends are offering to help but can't stay with us day and night.
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I had to read this twice to see who wrote it, after just reading the first paragraph. Those are almost my exact words to myself in my journal (it took me too long to learn that...!)
You have such an extra load about to hit. I so wish I were there and could help. I’ll - we’ll - be with you in spirit!
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@leeandpat Is there an Area Agency on Aging in your county, or senior services agency? Explain your situation. It seems there should be someone like a home nurse to help you out for the needed time? Check with your husband's Dr for suggestions, also. Perhaps someone from your local caregivers' support group will have resources to tap in to? Let us know what you find out, we care here at Mayo Connect.
Ginger