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Caregiving: I’m frustrated and exhausted.
Caregivers | Last Active: Mar 27, 2022 | Replies (223)Comment receiving replies
@debiobrien I know how hard it is to lose a parent, but you never really lose them. They are in you forever, especially your mom. You have given so much.
I know you’ve said that your family is real small now and your siblings are not close to you. Do you connect with them by phone? A call just to see how they are, not to talk about how difficult things are for you. Just say you’ve really missed them and hope you can have a phone relationship. Maybe you could ask them to write down something they remember of your mom and aunt and you all could share good times. We got my mom to write a short ‘story’ about her childhood as they moved from army post to army post in the 1920s. I the found the old photos that go with her story, integrated them, and made copies for everyone. This might be good for your aunt. It would be good for her and everyone else to see how she was when younger and healthier. Include your brother and sister in making a memory book and maybe you’ll make a family again.
Whatever you do, I know you’ll do it with love for your mom
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Becky, My brother has not spoken to me in 3 years now. he got so abusive and turned into my dad because of all the hate and ager he has helped in him for all thee years.
i told him about himself 3 years ago and how much he was hurting our mom and he has not spoken to me since that day. i dont expect to see him until my mom or aunts funeral. he didnt speak to my sister for 5 years once and then saw her in 2010 at out dads funeral.
My sister is 5 years older than me and she fled home when she was 18 and i was only 13 and we just never had time to bond and the age difference seems to be an issue with her. we speak now on occasion and she is nice to me she does not hate me but we are just not close sisters. we love each other she just has her life and im not part of it.
she has a lot of serious health issues and fought cancer 3 times and she has lupus and other issues . i send her emails and sometimes she responds she just does not have time for me.
i have a few cousins but they all live in other places and sates so have not had a relationship with them since we were kids. i dont think my brother or sister would ever be interested in doing the memory but its a nice idea..my mom and aunt both made scrap books for each of us kids quite a few years back so all of us kids have one.
so its kind of like a memory book. there was so much abuse in my family on both sides there were not many GOOD memories so i think our book would only be a couple pages unfortunately. not many nice memories.
im trying to make new nice memories with mom and aunt now so at least i have some nice memories that dont include abuse of any kind.
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What a sweet idea. Sometimes life doesn't turn out to be what we expected when we were young but God often finds a way to help us fill the gaps as we grieve over our disappointments. I bet there are lots of lonely people who have similar losses and would love to be your friends.