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Caregiving: I’m frustrated and exhausted.
Caregivers | Last Active: Mar 27, 2022 | Replies (223)Comment receiving replies
im doing that also me and mom do things and i have to just spend time at my aunts and she rarely leaves her house only to show for food and go to the doc but me and mom go to church and other things. we are talking about the movies and maybe even trying some fishing but when its cooler. But losing her always stays in the back of my mind as i have no idea what i will do when i lose her as she is all i have. i have watched over her and protected her and taken care of her my entire life. my father was not a nice man very abusive so i always had to protect her against him. i was also a cop for over 25 years so its in me to take care of people/ the more i try to not think about losing her the more i think about it. it is inevitable who knows when but i know i will have to deal with it one day. my family is real small now and most have passed and the ones still alive even my brother and sister are not close to me. it will be a shock to my life and i will be lost as to what to do when she is gone.
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@debiobrien I know how hard it is to lose a parent, but you never really lose them. They are in you forever, especially your mom. You have given so much.
I know you’ve said that your family is real small now and your siblings are not close to you. Do you connect with them by phone? A call just to see how they are, not to talk about how difficult things are for you. Just say you’ve really missed them and hope you can have a phone relationship. Maybe you could ask them to write down something they remember of your mom and aunt and you all could share good times. We got my mom to write a short ‘story’ about her childhood as they moved from army post to army post in the 1920s. I the found the old photos that go with her story, integrated them, and made copies for everyone. This might be good for your aunt. It would be good for her and everyone else to see how she was when younger and healthier. Include your brother and sister in making a memory book and maybe you’ll make a family again.
Whatever you do, I know you’ll do it with love for your mom