we are forever different and i will always carry it in my heart knowing i did all i could for my mom and aunt once they pass. no one else in the family is helping but i know i did what was right and what i wanted to do for my mom and aunt. sold my home and gave up friends and everything to move here by them to watch over them and take care of them. I know they would have done the same for me.

Hello Vicky, We do become different and learn from it. But at times hurt. Years ago a friend had Leukemia. She's good now! My choice, He mother was so frighted she would loose her daughter. Husband and I listened, became close, I loved her so much. Spent time with her. So was upset over her family arguing over my friends care. With her permission I called American Cancer Society, how to help them. With her permission they contacted the family. I'm telling this for a reason. My friend the daughter asked me to put makeup on her we had fun. I did the laundry for her children, helped with the dog, had her children for dinner. Hospital is in NYC so a friend and I drove there twice a week. She has a great sense of humor, it helped a lot!! I took care because I wanted to no one asked me. After she was in remission, still is, Her brother gave her a Hugh 50th Birthday Party. Friend and brother called people up to thank them, I was never called. It hurt me a lot, I got over it. My husband was lived but calmed down. I know I did the right thing and NO ONE can take that away from me. If it were not for my friends health I would never have gotten so close to her Mother. I called her my second mom. When she passed away I lost that extra special person in my life. We stayed friends but not in the same way. No accolades, a hug.