well i realized i was really stressed not from the care giving just life itself so i started last week going to get a massage. A therapeutic one deep muscle not a foo foo one . I have fibromyalgia and my doctor said it would help me and also relieve some stress and make me feel better overall. tomorrow will be my next one. thought i would try 1 a week for a month and then maybe 2 a month after that as it gets pricey. I am also planning a few day trips just to get away and have fun or do nothing. my mom wants to try fishing so we may try some fishing soon to just for some me and her time without my aunt as she is the one that is not able to care for herself my mom is in pretty good shape better than me. im thinking of maybe trying some bingo but mom likes that idea to but i want to try and do things with her that she also enjoys and have some nice and fun memories and i also think it will be good for her to get out. we are also talking about going to a movie every now and then. you are doing the right thing by letting hubby know you love him and appreciate them thats all we need to know is we are helping and you appreciate it. no negative stuff. I also go to yard sales every weekend and i love that. thats my me time to. it all works out and has a way of balancing. im sure one day it will get harder when my mom can no longer take care of herself as we all live alone right now but close by each other. but im sure it will all work out..