@debiobrien I’m just so sorry for the difficult situation you are in. There is a program in your state that can probably help. It’s Aging Life Care Association. They do have a website but I couldn’t get the URL. I used a program like this to help when my husband’s aunt was 96 and at her end of life. She had no children but always thought of my husband as her son. But, she lived in NYC and we were in Colorado. I found a geriatric nurse care manager who was able to help with finances, finding caregivers, etc. Best thing I ever did! Geriatric care managers have had advanced education in the care of the elderly and most of them are nurses.
I can only imagine how overwhelmed you must feel right now. Do you think your mother and aunt might be open to moving to assisted living? My 96 yr old mother lives in such a place. She gets her meals, housekeeping, bus rides to the doctor and can request help with getting dressed or anything else. She feels very safe and secure and knows that there is a nurse close by if needed.
Two totally different ideas but worth talking about. I hope for the best for you.