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Triggers for caregivers

Caregivers | Last Active: Oct 22, 2019 | Replies (53)

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@mamacita

Hello, @Scott, and everyone. Just dropping by for a quick second to say hello and see how y'all are doing.

My husband and I are at the age and in circumstances where we find ourselves in need of caregiving. While at the very same time we are caregivers of a very didferent sort.

We have our Grandson, who has been with us all His life. Our disabled daughter lives in another part of town, and we provide most of her transportation to her doctors appointments. She has six or seven doctors. And we have our senior Pug, Pugsley, who joined our family by way of rescue adoption.

One of my triggers is using the telephone. When it rings, it seems like sudden catastrophe is about to fall. There are so many appointments and so little time for much anything else. I know they are important and need to be done, but it makes it hard for me to plan the down time that I have left.

Mainly I try to focus on what really matters. And just go from there. I do read all kinds of articles about managing your time and focusing on what matters. That helps. I know I need to just have some patience. Understanding. And just keep doing the next right thing.

It's going to be just fine. We'll all get to where we need to be. We have each other here, at least, at Mayo Clinic Connect.

Love and light.

Mamacita Jane

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Hi @mamacita Good to hear from you! Interesting to me that you find the telephone troubling and triggering! It was for me, too! While I didn't have the outside family members who also needed me as a caregiver, it was too intrusive and inconvenient when it ever did ring was always at the worst time it seemed! So I turned the ringer off, added voicemail, and only checked the phone two times a day. Once at noon and once after dinner. Knowing that the phone would NOT ring added immense comfort and ease to my life.

So good to hear from you and I hope your grandson and daughter are both doing well.