Thanks, Debra. There's no room for either of us in our local son's home. But I am searching for respite care for my husband somewhere but we live up in the mts. of northern CA so facilities are limited. The only option I've found so far is to hire a part-time licensed caregiver to supplement help by "willing and available" friends and family. Medicare will usually not pay for in house Rehab/Nursing facilities unless you're in the hospital for at least 3 days and need skilled nursing or therapy. It's probable that I'll be discharged from the hospital the next day. I've started attending a Caregiver Support Group at our hospital and may be able to get some direction from the social worker who facilitates it. I'm also in touch with the HHS office in our county. One of my closest friends is also a licensed counselor and is a good sounding board. Tomorrow i have my first appointment with the surgeon I think will be doing my surgery if necessary. I'm hoping to get more answers and guidance from him.