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My dad has a mass on bladder and kidney not functioning
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@formydad I’ve been thinking of you, your dad & family. You’ve all been through so much. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Your dad needs you as an advocate. Get your dad’s authorization to do whatever you can to help. Then ask questions. Go after information, explanations, diagnoses, treatment plans, prognosis etc. Ask about risks and benefits, interactions, alternatives, priorities ..... until you are satisfied with the knowledge you gain. A question I particularly like to pose of medical providers is “If this was you or your parent, what would you recommend?” Be assertive. Again, prayers for you as you press on.
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I am pressing on! I just feel awful for my mom i know her heart is to be there with dad. They wont let her even visit.
Oh thank you all SO much for responding everyone!!!
- dad ended up getting an ivc filter placed in his right corroded Artery today incase the clot broke loose he believes they had then restarted the heprin. He has been visited by his oncologist which is great news. He will be getting a colonoscopy tomorrow because he has blood in his stool. I asked dad about putting me on hippaa as someone who can talk to docs i think he has me as a poa - but upon him or mom being incapacitated. Im looking into all the diff poa’s and ive printed forms to discuss with dad after he gets out. He seems to think he has completed these forms with me on them but has to give copies to hospitals but im not sure.
I did have my mom call up today at hosp. To have her - have the nurse re- explain what they did to her slowly so she could write it down. She told me she spoke so fast when she called she thought dad was getting a culvert put in his neck??? - anyway she clearly said ivc and i had her answer some more questions. So this is where we are. Thank you all for your love and prayers -concern and thoughts and advice and sharing your experiences! It helps me so much! I cant tell you enough!