@bradmn. You story sounds somewhat like mine. When my husband was 64 he also had a calcium score done and the results were awful. He had the test done because his father, grandfather, an great grandfather had all died of heart attacks at age 64. Needless to say, I was stunned. Now 8 years later, he’s in good health taking care of me since I got a brain lesion. We’ve also been focusing on the here and now, but I decided that as long as I felt well enough to do things, we would. We successfully went on a trip to Europe and right now in Crested Butte, CO visiting grandchildren! We take it one day at a time, are prepared, but also, try to have a life and have fun.
It sounds like you’ve been a wonderful caregiver for your wife, so maybe now is the time to take care of yourself. Do some of the things you’ve wanted to do, but also plan for the future. It is so hard. I wish you all the best on this difficult journey and I know your wife is lucky to have you