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Loss & Grief | Last Active: Aug 1, 2022 | Replies (35)
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@georgette12, such a good question - how does one deal with memories that trigger grief? It must be so hard, Georgette, when the memories throw you into guilt and depression. If I could ban guilt as an emotion, I would. It serves nothing in this instance in my opinion. I'm sure that your son would not want to have caused you guilt and depression. That was not his intention.
I'd like to bring a few members into this discussion to hear different experiences from @anndomico @parus @IndianaScott @dd1931 @tmmmrlts and anyone else who would like to add their thoughts. Do you try to avoid triggers that resurface grief? When do the memories become less painful? Do they ever become a welcome interruption?
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I am approaching the one year anniversary of my husband’s death from brain cancer on August 20th. I keep thinking that it will get better, but as time goes on so many things -even wonderful memories and photos - trigger an instant stab of hurt and sadness that is very hard to endure. I even think it is making me physically ill with gastric problems, insomnia, UTI, migraines, and a sinus infection. We were married for 60 years, so I guess I shouldn’t be surprised that the grief will be deep and long lasting, but I keep hoping the good memories will stop causing pain even if the bad ones never will. My family is wonderful at wanting to support me, but they are grieving too and I really don’t want to burden them with my pain or cause them worry about my health problems. I expect the only thing anyone can do is keep on keeping on, but, oh how I wish it it would get easier!