I will make this as short as possible. When I was divorced, over 10 years ago (after a 43 year marriage) I did not ask for alimony as I had a substantial inheritance. Well, I ran. into an unscrupulous money manager (suggested to me) and he was running a ponzi scheme. I was left with much less than I had, probably not enough to live on til my end. I live in a low-cost apartment, can barely pay my bills, buy absolutely nothing fun, and sometimes my rent is late. My X is doing great - big house, goes everywhere - Europe, etc. Now considering that I did not ask for alimony because at that time I had plenty of money. I talked to my lawyer about this and she told me the case could be reopened IF he was working, which he is not. I am considering writing to him, carefully (he's a narcissist) and ask him to please consider giving me some extra $ each month, considering I did not ask for it before. I had what I thought was plenty, and "didn't want to make him live like a pauper." Part of me says "do it" and the other part says "no." He's well aware of my situation. If it were not for my dear son, who sends me money each month, I'd never make the monthly payments.
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