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Mental Health | Last Active: Mar 19, 2022 | Replies (428)Comment receiving replies
10/30/2019...... Hi everyone ... well I'm back again .... it seems I'm forever running into some sort of garbage to throw me off. My therapist told me a few years ago that "it's easier if a spouse dies than there is a long-term marriage and then a divorce." I thought he was nuts. Well, now you know I'm in VA, only about 25 miles from where my X lives, which has been hard enough. But, now I find out that he has a "companion" ..... i.e. girlfriend. Now mind you, I divorced him - he was and I imagine still is a narcissist, and before I moved here I had a real life. But, now that I know he has a girlfriend, something in my head and heart feels thrown away again .... this has always been the way of life for me .... as a child, teen, and adult, and then him .... worthless, to be thrown away. I'm really struggling with this although I know he and I are both free to do what we want. But somehow it just stings and hurts. Thanks for listening.
abby
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@amberpep You are not worthless. You created a family, and have had quite a variety of experiences that have meant something to you. I think that many people, when they divorce, think that there might be a chance of reuniting if they do this or that thing. I was like that, too! When I saw my ex-husband doing the things he always told me he would do but didn't when we were together, but did them with his new girlfriend, it made me upset. I knew in my heart that I really was better without him but it took work! It sounds like he has moved on, and you will find your way to move on, also. Have you been in contact with your therapist or support group, to get their take on how to work through this?
Ginger