Hello @smilie
@parus and @amberpep provided some good thoughts in their posts to you. You might read them over again and think about them. The fact that you have never been "independent much" as you said in your post, does not mean that it is impossible, even at age 60, to begin the process of independence. Just remember that it is a process and will take time.

Just begin to reclaim small parts of your life, one step at a time.

Can you think of one thing that you would like to do independent of family? What is that? How might you accomplish that, taking small steps?