@smilie Many of us have family issues. I no longer expect help and would not even think of asking. I ceased trying to be the person they wanted and have gone my own way, set my boundaries and endeavoring to live my life in a way that is good for me. I have always been independent and not one to ask for help. The thing I do know whether it be family or friends is that no one else can fix things for me. There comes a time when we need to do what is in our best interest and not what pleases others. It hurts when you feel others have failed you. It is healthy you can set boundaries. There are those that will respect you for doing thus.