Hello @smilie
I urge you to seek support from outside of your family and take care of yourself.

@smilie It seems you have identified some major issues. Now you need to write them down, and then leave space to write down how to address them and solve them. Check resources available to you. Is there a battered women's shelter near you that you can go to? What do your plans for leaving look like today? Is there a religious or spiritual community that you can ask for assistance?
Ginger

@smilie I can hear the exasperation in your words. When one is in such distress fleeing seems the answer at the time. When finances are involved things become more complicated. I think @hopeful33250 has made a good suggestion. There are times when some unbiased input can be helpful. I know the feeling of being overwhelmed and spinning a circle. It is terribly uncomfortable. Wise decisions may not be made in such a state.

@smilie, you seem depressed so not motivated. It happens to all of us. Are you afraid to make that step? For your sanity and well being. That first step may be hard but after you make your decision I think you would be very proud of yourself and free of a unhappy, stressful, very difficult situation.