Hi, @smilie - That sounds like a very hard situation for you with feeling as though he is verbally/emotionally/psychologically and monetarily abusing you.

I wanted to suggest one resource that may be helpful to you to contact for some guidance https://www.thehotline.org/.

According to this site, this is the definition of domestic violence/abuse, which is broader than some may think of it: https://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined/

"Domestic violence includes behaviors that physically harm, arouse fear, prevent a partner from doing what they wish or force them to behave in ways they do not want. It includes the use of physical and sexual violence, threats and intimidation, emotional abuse and economic deprivation. Many of these different forms of domestic violence/abuse can be occurring at any one time within the same intimate relationship."