I find my self coming to these pages to get my fix for the day and I am never disappointed in what the contributors, moderators, mentors, have added. Your entry today, cindyt63, felt so right as I have also been a caregiver for my mother the five years before she passed at 99, and now my husband needs me in his journey with Alzheimer's. I remember how painful it was for me when taking care of mother, when we reached the point that you mention as "the moral of the story" . Actually, it brought about a calming effect for me and relief, along with sadness at the reality of what was going to happen. I am hoping I can meet the challenge with my husband when that time comes. Tears are falling now but a dose of reality is always good. Thank you for post.