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"Why bother?" What can we do when we are stuck?
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Jun 20, 2022 | Replies (103)Comment receiving replies
Well, depression and anxiety are a challenge. Add chronic pain to the mix and the batter just no longer wants to rise. Weather is warming and time to get out and plant some flowers. Not at all motivated. Won't be able to even think about my secret garden until mid-June as will be house/dog sitting while son and family go on vacation. Thinking I am not up to doing the job. I can't sleep well there because of fear. Sounds silly but my fear is real. I am not comfortable there far from help should I need it. I don't talk about how bad the pain is and my fears of being far from help. If I were to fall and get hurt because of those useless dogs no one would even know. Many family members with keys. Not a good thing for me. I don't want to ruin things for their vacation.
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Hi @parus. Be honest with your family. It is too much for you. If you are overwhelmed now; more so closer to the day. Depression and anxiety issues is a real battle. Strange how we know once we get moving, we are better for it. But it is that first move; the struggle to get up and go- ongoing. It does not help when you have pain on top of it. Interesting mix of pain factors I have, if I do not move I pay for it dearly. And others, if I move, it hurts so. I do both. Maybe have a relative stay with at least while housitijngvwith the dogs- whatever, your despair , etc will make less effective And meds adjustment does change, more dosage at certain times of the year- less other times. Or wrong one as times goes on. Please be aware; you are important and needs to do the best by you. Take care
@parus Good to see you this morning! Can you get a medical alert thing that would summon help if you have a problem? Is there a friend or other family member that you would like to have stay with you, would that work? At some point in our lives we need to put our hand up and say, "no, this isn't going to work anymore". Maybe you've reached that point. While you don't want to jeopardize somebody else's vacation, you need to think of yourself first. I know that you will consider all the options available to you and make the right choice that fits for you. Please take care of yourself first and be gentle on yourself. Sending you hugs this morning,
Ginger
@parus If you feel this way Parus you should talk it over with your son You said other family members have house keys maybe they could check on the house and dogs .I wouldn't want anything to happen to you in the state your in with pain and anxiety If you don't say anything now it will be to late when they leave .I hope you think about the possibilities that could happen and make the right decision for yourself .
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Your fear doesn't sound at all silly. Not sleeping well + already in pain + dogs that can't help if you fall -- sounds like a recipe for disaster. Is there anyone else that can/would take on the house/dog sitting? It would be so much more nourishing for you to start on that secret garden, imo. 🙁 🙁 🙁