Hearing Loss: Come introduce yourself and connect with others

Colleen- Thank you for my invitation.
Good morning all. I am a mentor on Connect. You can find me in the Lung Cancer and anxiety and depression group. I am married to a man who has terrible hearing- well what's left of it after gunfire damage. He has had surgeries but that there are injuries that can not be fixed. Up until his present set of hearing aids I have had to adjust my voice to his loss. This has happened over a period of almost 40 years. For years he denied his problem then he refused to get hearing aids. And NOW I have to adjust the voice that I made for him back to what it was and softer because my voice is too loud for him and hurts his ears. So I am coming from a different view point- lol. It's extremely frustrating to all of a sudden have to modulate my voice- any suggestions? Just this minute I was told to stop yelling- well my voice was raised because I didn't know if he had his hearing aids in or not. grrr. My voice was loud yes, but I wasn't yelling! lol. Can you tell my frustration?
Does anyone have any suggestions on how this can be resolved?

@merpreb I don't know but have a suggestion Go into the bathroom close door start talking to yourself as sound hurts your ears conciously talk softer to yourself just thinking maybe will help don't know good luck

@lioness- I might not have been clear. It's not my ears that hurt it's Dave's. I'll have to bring him in with me. :)))

@merprep I misunderstood I thought you wanted to tone down your voice Good idea both go in I don't want to be around though lol

@lioness- Yes, I do but I will need him because I wont be able to tell if my voice is that soft. LOL

@merpreb Might work Merry

@merpreb Merry, I think this is a problem that time will solve as you find the level that he needs to be able to hear you without feeling like you are shouting to him. It must be tough though to have gotten used to speaking in a loud voice for years to now have to tone it down. Also, louder is not always better. Sometimes it's the clarity. That is my problem frequently but if I don't understand my husband he shouts. I feel like he is always shouting at me.
JK

@contentandwell- awww. I feel like I'm either too loud or not loud enough and get these not so pleasant looks and then a "I can't hear you" or he ducks his head and says, "Lower your voice, you're yelling." He's got the head lowering down to a science to show me the pain that I have caused him.
I understand the clarity part- good point. He has the most expensive hearing aids. There still is a long way for those to go.

@merpreb I have the most expensive also, they were supposed to be the latest improvement for clarity. Hearing aids can only do so much though, it's not like correcting vision with eyeglasses.
JK

Hello I am new to the group, I encountered my hearing loss do to and illness 4yrs ago, I was diagnose with sepsis(bacteria in the blood) was treated with an strong antibiotic(vanamyacin)which took my hearing that was the trade off, was given 48 hrs. to live, thanks to that antibiotic but did not know I would be affected. I am so thankful that I am hear to share my story. Left ear 48 right 80 and with this tinitis, I wear HA. My first experience with ha which i purchased through the audiologist were I feel was not what I was looking for with the money I invested and they lasted 2 1/2 yrs I vowed to myself I was going to find a place, so I was all on Amazon buying these HA items all they seemed to do was amplfy so I found a place where I could pay less and get the results I wanted, BBB rated them A+ so gave them a try bought a cheap pair think it was $400 didn't like them wasn't what I wanted returned got another pair $600 didn't like these either so I upgraded
and got the better quality I love them,$1000.00 for the pair, the clarity, channels, the volume you control were as your hubby maybe watching a show with you and to you it's loud or too low you can control it for your liking without disturbing him, I have had them for a 1yr 1/2 I just love them and the company are very caring .