Good morning @susan2018 I hear you I hear you! 'Running on fume', 'no close family nearby', and the never ending 'paperwork'!

It all truly is exhausting! No other word for it!

I actually found Mayo Connect by accident when I, too, was running on fumes. My wife has a large family (5 siblings) and I have two sisters. But as opposed to when I grew up in Ohio and had every grandparent, aunt, uncle and cousin within walking distance, now none of these folks even live in the same state. Closest relatives were my sisters, who over my wife's entire 14+ year war never once set foot in our home, called, wrote, or offered any assistance other than one time telling me "well, if you're so (explicative deleted) tired leave her home and go check into the ER". Once, when I actually answered honestly when one of her siblings asked me 'how are you doing Scott' immediately dialed his cell phone and told the other siblings within my earshot, 'Scott is whining and looking for sympathy'. No question caregiving can be brutal and no one should ever feel guilty when they cannot do it all or for how they truly feel!

I never did figure out the paperwork maze! It was never ending and still crops up from someone who decides I still owe them something which I had overlooked, sometimes from years earlier and some doctor or test I can no longer even recall.

I remember, when I was a kid, there was a product on the market and they advertised on TV all the time. It was called STP and was some kind of gasoline additive to make your car run better. I often said to my wife, on those days I was in 'fumes mode' that I needed some STP! I never found anything to put into my gastank to refuel other than whatever sleep I could manage! Plus I learned to let a whole lot of things go to save energy. Dust bunnies happily populated our home, my shirts never saw an iron, I had to buy a second laundry basket for dirty clothes, and I am embarrased to say an entrie room became a junk room where things got stored I didn't have the energy or time to deal with.

Fellow caregivers, no matter how tired, beat, or exhausted, always have big shoulders and willing ears! Speak up, speak often, and never worry that it will be taken as anything other that venting! We all need that safe place to be our caregiving selves!

The only tip I have for reenergizing is that I did learn how to nap sitting up 🙂 Have you found any ways to help bounce back when on empty?

Strength, courage, and peace!