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Caregivers | Last Active: Feb 23, 2020 | Replies (62)

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@IndianaScott

Hello @susan2018 I am sorry to read how heavy a burden you are carrying. My name is Scott and I was just the caregiver for my wife and I know how overwhelming that was for me at times. I cannot imagine the burden you are trying to carry.

I know every situation is unique in families and caregiving, but my initial reaction is there is no way one person can do what you are trying to do. As I often say -- the only place you find superheros is in the comics and not in caregiving!

I am wondering if you have looked into the visiting nurse program in your community or any local church-based groups that can offer actual help for you. Also might any of your family be Veterans and therefore eligible for some assistance via the VA?

I know first hand caregiving is a very tough, demanding, and unrelenting role. Might there be the possibility of some paid assistance for a couple hours a week for you?

Strength, courage, and peace!

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First off, thank you for your reply this afternoon. Just finding this place where I know I can say what I feel is enough, I’m not looking for sympathy or praise or advice, just a listening ear which you so kindly provided me. I look around at the burden other caregivers carry and I feel guilty because I know I am capable of doing what needs to be done. I was feeling sorry for myself this afternoon when I wrote this. We have accessed local resources for my mother. I have a home health nurse that comes every two weeks to set up my mother’s meds and check her vitals as well as a housekeeper that cleans her apartment twice a month. On her own when she got out of the hospital Mother decided she wanted Meals on Wheels and also an aid for her bath. Mother is nearly blind, getting somewhat hard of hearing, has heart failure and arthritis which make her every day chores more difficult for her. She had been ordering groceries on her own for delivery but I just took that over because it is getting too difficult for her to read her list to the order taker. And of course I take care of all her paperwork and bills and shopping and checking on her. We are a small family, and as I said, we are all scattered across the U.S. including my brother and Mother’s younger sister in other states with no close relatives nearby. When I retired we moved to be close to my mother in order to make it easier to help out. We are fortunate in so many respects but my gas tank wS running on fumes this afternoon. Again...thanks, Scott. Take good care.