I understand what you’re feeling as I’ve gone thru the same thing with my sons. I suffer from anxiety and depression from chronic pain, heart disease and lung disease. I finally came out and told my youngest son that it hurts me that he never asks how I’m doing. He’s gotten a little better but I think it’s the generation. My son is 34 my oldest son is 46. He’s only slightly better at asking. I’m lucky to have a daughter that talks to me almost every day and visits weekly. Start by telling your kids how you feel. Also try to find something to do that makes you happy. And you don’t always have to jump to help. I know that’s hard but they learn better sometimes by having to do things themselves. Hang in there!