@afrobin When you talk about not being a burden, I know exactly what you mean. I feel that I can be a burden on my husband who already does so much for me. I then ask some of the women in the dog park if they would drop me off at the doctors office. Some have even volunteered! I do small things for them when I can , so it sort of evens out.
I used to tell my oldest som, when he would drive an hour out of his way after work to visit his grandfather in the hospital, that he could look back and have no regrets-he had done the right thing. Don’t worry about asking your kids! Do something in return if you can. Let them know you’d never ask if you could do for yourself.
My sisters have asked why I don’t use Uber—maybe I should!