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Down in the dumps again – challenges with adult children
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Feb 18, 2019 | Replies (357)Comment receiving replies
HAPPY NEW YEARS! CHILDREN CAN BE SO DISAPPOINTING THESE DAYS. They have no respect. It is a world of me me Nike Just do it (Sucks)
Mine are all healthy, working hard, and raising a family. My oldest one has the worst Mental Illness and my grandkids should have been taken a long time ago They are almost grown now. They show the most respect for her though. You have to give it to God. You have to pray that one day they will love you again. I worked part-time all my life to be home with them. They all say I am crazy. I finally had to say Good Bye because my presence brought back the horror we experienced with the Psychopath narcissistic man of 30 years we grew up with. I cannot blame them because I believed everything he said too. I was only able to let go this year because it is best for my little grandkids. I still keep an ear out but do not bother them anymore. I do this because I love them. Anyway I responded because of Cymbalta. Has this med caused anyone to want to stay inside? Fear of going outside. I am totally different than what I was last year. Plus I watched my Dad die slowly. First time for death event in the family. I pray one day all my grandkids and children will come to me one day and have a Big Breakfast and Love me again.
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I’m so sorry you’ve had such a hard journey. My husband and my oldest daughter are Bi polar. I know it’s a struggle for them but it’s also hard on their family. My husband is doing well with only occasional lows. My daughter is ok but suffers really bad with anxiety. I finally have her going to my psychiatrist and I know he’s going to help her. As for Cymbalta YES YES YES!!! I never want to go anywhere!! I have to force myself to get out. Have you asked your dr about this?
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A pill and prayer are not going to make your children and grandchildren reunite with you. Read the post above and get out and get involved in LIFE. As hard as it might be at first...do for others. Volunteer. Enrich your life with activities. You want to be considered a positive ray of sunshine in the lives of your family and others. Take it one step at a time with your children and offer to babysit or go for a coffee and bring little gifts or their favourite dessert from childhood. People want to be around those who are not mopey, passive and needy. Be strong and independent. Smile! And this way you will be an influence on them as they might be depressed.
I am a senior and I attend 2 Italian classes per week (I am not Italian) and one German class (I am not German.). I volunteer for 4 organizations. I cook soups for my 80+ sister in law who is not well. I am organizing old family videos and photos. I get out and do photography on occasion. I try to travel somewhere once a year. I send a young, African asylum seeker to English school and I help him find his way in this new, scary world for him. I babysit my granddaughter and cook dishes they like when I have time. I could go on and on. Bottom line: Get involved in life and make yourself interesting. And be cheerful and positive. Good luck!