@kdo0827- On the other side my mother, who is a spry 88 yr. old who lives by herself and is very active volunteering and still drives some has 5 children with me being the oldest and closest (about 2 hrs. away). It seems that my youngest brother (who lives one state away) calls & travel to see her regularly. My middle brother just went (3 hrs. away) to visit her and was supposed to stay 2 days with his wife and at the last moment his wife decided she was to busy and he only stayed overnight. My mom has fusssed about meals & possible sights to see & for the most part they stayed home. When I asked how the visit went it was all about him and he really never asked how she was doing? He even commented that she looked like she gained some weight? Go figure? My 2 sisters have not visited her for over 2 years. They talk on the phone occasionally, but usually it more about their issues. Again not really asking "How are you doing mom"? "What have you been up to"? One is out of state and the other just 3 hrs. away. I just believe people have become so self consummed and they just don't think about loved ones like we used to? The youngest & oldest (57- 66) so we are not talking about young people anymore. My mom learns more about what is going on with my siblings by looking at their FB page. Very strange and sad!